In 1982 my sister, Tina died suddenly from a gall stone operation. She was 27 years old (I was 26). Tina was also my best friend. Tina left behind her husband 29 years old and two young girls 8 months and 4 1/2 years old.
The sadness and loss I bore was insurmountable. I felt a part of me died with my sister. I cried myself to sleep every night for 8 months, not to mention how often I cried during the day grieving for Tina, her husband, her children, our family, community.
I had counselling numerous times for lengthy periods at various intervals. With the assistance and support of the counsellors I healed some of the present sadness and loss, however every time I spoke about Tina tears flowed. even up until 2 years ago (26 years after her death). I was astounded that I still cried when I spoke of her as I knew that time was supposed to heal, but something wasn't working for me the pain was too deep and intense and I still missed my sister so much.
I started using EFT in 2007. In 2009 I decided to try an EFT exercise to assist with the pain, sadness & loss I still felt for my sister. This is called " The Personal Peace Procedure". Gary Craig, the inventor who invented EFT, suggests to do this procedure to overcome a trauma, loss, etc. So I started writing everything down I remembered about Tina's death from the first notion things were not going well.
Writing down what I saw, heard, felt, touched throughout that difficult time in hospital, before her death, after her death, funeral etc.etc until every aspect in which I experienced pain and emotion was gone.
As I started doing EFT I cried and cried (and tapped and tapped) especially through some of the more intense scenes I remembered. I worked on the most intense emotions and got through 3/4 of the list and felt I didn't need to do any more as I felt a peace I had never felt before. All the sadness, loss grief, trauma was gone and replaced with appreciation, love, gratitude and so much more.
This Personal Peace Procedure took approximately 45 minutes to clear the feelings of emptiness, sadness, loss, grief, and loneliness I had had in my heart for 26 years.
I think of my sister totally differently now as I don't have that emptiness & pain, but joy and love in my heart. I am so grateful for EFT in my life, I feel I have my sister with me every day.